I’ve been thinking about lots of political issues lately.. in particular same-sex marriage.
I can’t get my head around why anybody would care if two people decided to get married — unless they hate that KIND of person. That seems to make sense, because it was behind the bans on inter-racial marriages too.
The thing is, I don’t understand the concept of hating a group… or, really individual people.
There are things about the world and the way people interact that I really dislike — and I use the word “hate” on occasion, but really what I’m saying is that I wish X weren’t the way it is.
There are plenty of individual people I don’t care to spend time with — mostly because of the way they impact me (frustration, insecurity or whatever..) — so I choose not to interact with them. We all make choices about who we spend time with, so I choose not to spend time with these folks if I can help it. I can’t say that I hate them tho — I simply dislike how they impact me.
I also don’t understand the compulsion to get involved in other people’s’ private decisions. Who you marry is one, abortion is another. I’m not secure enough in my world-view to say that abortion is always morally wrong, or that a fetus is a person with the same rights as the mother… and, believe me, I’ve thought about it and taught this topic many times. I just can’t be sure enough to say to another woman that her decision to abort a child is wrong enough that we need to legislate about it.
I can say that abortion isn’t a choice I could have seen making for myself — but, then again, I didn’t have to face that kind of choice — so I can’t even be sure about ME. I’ve been lucky that way — not having to make a hard choice is the best option, so I was blessed in that way.
I guess my 43 years on the planet have landed me in a place where I don’t have the need to control others or to put my life choices and values on other folks. I kinda like this place, maybe others will join me there..