Use “sexual orientation”, not “sexual preference”

Interesting article — the gist of it is that when a person uses the term “sexual preference” when they MIGHT mean “sexual orientation”, there is an implication that the person they are referring to has a choice in what turns them on.. when there is plenty of research indicating otherwise.

IF it’s the case that sexual orientation is really a preference, like some people prefer cats to dogs as pets, then there is no reason to give legal protection to folks who make that “choice”.  Instead, the point of view is that they make a choice knowing the consequences — just like I make a choice to live with cats knowing I need to clean the litter box.

On the other hand, if we realize that sexual orientation is more like race — it becomes hard not to be bigoted when someone says “I’m not a bigot, I just don’t agree with their homosexuality”… translated into racial terms, that becomes “I’m not a bigot, I just don’t think people should be black” — listen to how stupid that sounds.  Really folks, it’s time to realize that our human condition means that we’re born with our sexual orientation.  We can, and often do, choose to refrain from acting on all of our deeply held desires — BUT, that doesn’t mean that we can reasonably expect others to do so.  When we look at sexuality as a choice, or “preference”, we’re putting people in a category that they didn’t chose, but we imply that they did..


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June 17, 2013 · 12:53 pm

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