Interesting article about the views on sex in our culture.
The gist of the article is that what we, as a culture, consider “sex” is quite narrow and limited to making a connection between male and female genitals. The implications of this assumption are huge — from the idea that somehow a woman who identifies as a lesbian just needs a poke from the right pecker — to the idea that if a feminist IS interested in more traditional sex with a man, she’s not a good feminist (a second-wave idea).
It also negates the reality of sexuality, namely that preferred sexual acts change along with our bodies and minds. As we age, we change what we find stimulating etc.. and, that change can involve a move away from the wacker in the whoo-hoo kind of sex. The fact that we don’t even have the language or cultural context to TALK about this is just another way the patriarchy seeks to make people conform. Good luck with that — Mr. Patriarchy, people will do what they want to, whether or not they have the words or cultural context to talk about it.